PSYCHOLOGICAL DYNAMICS IN POST DIVORCE MEN (CASE STUDY IN KRADENAN VILLAGE, PURWOHARJO DISTRICT, BANYUWANGI REGENCY)

Abstract

Divorce is a very stressful event. In addition to having a bad impact on children, divorce can also have a big impact on the lives of married couples who experience it. Married couples who have divorced experience more psychological impacts or dynamics such as feeling sad, depressed, disappointed and so on. For most people, men may be synonymous with strong and tough figures in dealing with many things than women, including in dealing with post-divorce life. However, in reality this is not the case, both women and men can also feel the negative effects of a divorce. The purpose of this study is to find out how the psychological dynamics felt by a man after a divorce and what factors can influence it. This research was conducted to prove that not only women can experience negative psychological impacts or dynamics after divorce, but men who are actually considered stronger than women can also feel these psychological impacts or dynamics. This research is a type of qualitative case study research, data collection is carried out by in-depth interviews, observation and documentation techniques. The subjects in this study were male residents of Krajan Hamlet, Kradenan Village, Purwoharjo District, Banyuwangi Regency who had experienced a divorce as a key informant and one of the closest people as a supporting informant. The subjects in this study amounted to 4 people with details of 2 key informants and 2 supporting informants. The results of this study indicate that the 2 key informants in this study experienced negative or unpleasant psychological impacts or dynamics after their divorce, such as feeling sadness, disappointment, shock, shame, mental down, regret and frustration. The emergence of the impact or psychological dynamics is caused by several factors including the failure to realize expectations in the marriage, feeling cheated by the wife/partner, the feeling of unwillingness to divorce, not getting the trust of the wife/partner and worries about the children.